I guess I have grown wiser these days. I find myself keeping quiet. Yeah! I remain quiet and smiling and keep what ever bitching I feel sprouting deep in my chest from flourishing into contradicting statements that escape my lips. I am sure it is better that way, we get to keep our relationship as perfectly as usual and the poyo person wouldn’t know how blood vomiting she makes me feel unless she reads this blog.
Haha! Yeah. It’s blog bitching time.
No. 1. I hate talking with stay-at-home-moms (SAHM). Not all but some.
Ladies, with me you can speak of a lot of things like shopping, Botox injection and susuk, green technology and nuclear power, the extinction of dodo birds, cooking and recipes, football, blogging, Iphones and BB, national income disparity, the murder of arwah Sosilawaty, foresight and future studies, shoes and handbags, the national frustration among women with the marriage of Dr Sheikh Muzaffar! You name it!
But of course, when we moms get together, we tend to talk about kids, parenting and occasionally, marriage life. One thing I cannot stand SAHMs is the fact that they try very hard to express to us full-time-working-moms; that their role as SAHMs is not only as challenging as ours but MORE!
Look, I am not gonna deny that you can get very tired doing laundry and many a times your husband nags about his mismatch socks and cari sepender tak jumpa la apa bagai… But come on, don’t say it as though we working moms don’t have to deal with all that!! Apa ko ingat aku kerja opis aku tak payah basuh spender laki aku ke? Puhhleeesszz! I am like the Queen of hilangkan spender okkkk?
Please understand we working moms too have to deal with scrubbing the toilet and making dinner and all. Not all of us have maids, ok?
And No. 2, there’s another type of women that is slightly on the heavy side but has self-esteem in the weight of a fragment of Miki’s spender cut into 12. Why am I still talking about spenders?
Anyway, I think we all have become so used with what’s happening in the television. Ugly Betty, Shallow Hal etc whereby the slim or skinny tends to say mean things to the fat and heavy. But come to think about it, that hardly happen in real life anymore or perhaps the norms are really turning around because nowadays I tend to see curvaceous women are using harsh statements about slimmer women so seriously and so unnecessarily.
It is as though they are using dissing slim people as some form of motivation or self- cajoling aka menyedapkan hati sendiri or something like that.
For example the other day I was eating with a curvy friend and you all know I eat like there’s no tomorrow and couldn’t give a rat’s ass about dieting. So I don’t see why the other woman suddenly get defensive and said
“You know, I don’t care about dieting. I love myself. Don’t people realize that curvy is more beautiful and sexy? Who wants to be so thin and skinny? I think that’s so ugly! I bet all men wants a bit of flesh on the girls they are dating!”
Tu diaaaa… ko tak sedar ke ko tengah cakap dengan Diyana aka Orang Lidi ni???? I don’t think saying that is fair to those who were born thin like me. I didn’t choose to have high metabolism, if I did get to choose I would have gone luscious Rihanna, Kim Kardashian or Rozita Che Wan or something…
And then there are other women that love to say things like “Laki aku tak suka pompuan kurus-kurus ni…. Dia suka yang gebu-gebu..” Tak pasal-pasal! Masalahnya aku tak pun cakap pasal laki aku suka giler kat Kate Moss supaya secara tak langsung aku nak cakap kat ko yang aku ni macam Kate Moss kan? Lagipun ada aku kisah laki ko suka pompuan kering ke pompuan debab? Motippp?? Aku tak hingin kat laki ko dan laki ko pun tak hingin kat aku. So quit it! You are annoying!
Every time I got into this kind of situation I would quickly assess back the conversation and see if I have triggered her to make such statements. Perhaps I have unintentionally bragged about how pretty slim people can be or what not. If I did I am sorry I didn’t mean to make these plus size women feel insulted but most of the times I wasn’t talking about health and beauty or husband’s preference at all!
Come on, we are adults now, we are almost 30 years old. Haven’t these women realize that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. I have so many plus size friends that I find gorgeous (read : Kak Ani, Badriyah, Liza etc) are more attractive than some of my slimmer friends and ME! If slim women can be open and admit that their curvy friends are gorgeous while still loving themselves and be confident, why can’t these curvy ladies feel the same?
Kesian ok kat orang kurus-kering!!
proott..proot.. 2 kali kentut!! =P
kenapa Queen of hilangkan spender emosi?
hihi
bodi cantik mulut bau longkang pun tak guna
kan kak?
uihhh orang kurus mmg senang annoyed! hahaha. tak la. nak cakap tu agak2 la kan…
Wanita bekerja tak kutuk suri rumah pun yg suri rumah duk buat baguih2 tu awat.. sama la dengan satu lg kes… korang jgn ingat orang kurus suka kutuk orang chubby! Orang chubby kutuk orang kurus pun aku selalu kena!
this skinny working mom masuk magazine n newspaper so depa jeles ekcelinya tu .. so utk menidakkan realiti kehidupan itu, depa depa ni kena la ngaku diri sendiri hebat.
“Haters don’t actually hate you, they hate themselves and take it out on you”
=)
masuk magazine or what not doesnt make one great la. like i said, i believe this is not an issue of jealousy… it is just the way some women motivates and boost their own self-esteem. They didnt realize that it could be unthoughtful and annoying to others. thats all…
” I am like the Queen of hilangkan spender okkkk?” <seriously kak D?maka adekah Miki selalu tidak memakai spender?sexy okkkkkk~!DOUBLE NYUMS!HAHAH
I agree that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, therefore i believe I am Pretty too -at least to my Mr F;)
Ingat tak lagu Christina Aguilera :
'cause we are beautiful no matter what they say
Yes, words won't bring us down, oh no
We are beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can't bring us down~'
I think kak D is CANTIK~you are more to me like Azah Aziz.with a face and body like yours u boleh kahwin mat salleh okehhh!HAHAH
So gi mamppps la si mulut longkang tu.Kecantikan hakiki terletak pada hati.Sekian.
hahahha.. kalu baca diyana punya blog ni mmg hilang tention.. hang ni lawak la diyana.. i like the way you’re writing
yeah, maybe for you nothing great la but if they are a good friend/person, they will be happy for your achievement, and of course, the way you are. apapun, as long as you love youself, enough laa.. cause you’re amazing .. just the way you’re .. (kata bruno mars)
pasang tracker kat spender2 yg ada..skali skala hilang boleh misscall etc.
aku kena la cakap baik2 la ni kat nize ye sbb nize kurus….
pheww! what a post D… terbayang kesakitan hati yang melampau. selepas org kampung tuhan je yang membalas..sekarang org gemuk pulak and surirumah? what??! takde keja ke?
ya rabbi! you memang magnetic towards these kind of peops la D..takpela babe.. redha je..
meh sini sikit, i nak jadi org curvy ejek you yang kurus.. ‘wei, apehal lu kering sangat minah??!!’ and now, as a surirumah.. ‘eleh, ingat you kuat sangat bekerja la?’… eeiiii sungguh rempit.. hahahhahahhah…siap aku gile sengsorg ni hah.
i feeeeeeeel ya!!
but ur kinda lucky with the high metabolisme
im the type i hv to work for it.
it pon kna questioned jgakkkkkkkkkk… adeeehhhh..
my comments always taknak keluar..dah berapa banyakla ntah i tulis..poyo menggila. mesti kat spam lagi! i taknak browse lagi la your blog perempuan skinny and bekerja! heheh
hang dah laser…beranikk orang itu mempuake??
hahahha terase terpanggil untuk menconteng disini
pengalaman hidup aku…yang DEB*B akan buat “kurusstraightmelidi” as a topic/issue for them to ulang2 sampai depa puas hati for the day/week/month/year/theirwholelife…. takde life kan mereka[read: some of the deb*bs,not all]..
come to think of it… it is indeed true we’re kurus & straight & ya ampun gile x sexy langsung !…it’s true,physically proven… but apasai depa plak nak annoyed !!! tang mana yang depa kene tanggung? selain sore eyes tu pon sebab mata depa yang gatai duk tengok kot kan kan
penah one said to me… mommytoizzzaffran,hang kuruih sangat la apa kata hang blablublablu macam nicolekidmankeiraknighleymariahcareyzianazain … haa macam tu baru best…. so aku terpaksa la menjawab sebab dah dia pulun concern caring gila kan… [yang bercakap adelah deb*b nak arwah]
aku jawab, “kalo btul bole kan, aku takyah tunggu 28tahun kot!”
summary: i feel u!
insyaAllah, see u this saturday
ampunkan saye, komen seperti sebuah entry ringkas
as saying goes, “How can you know your worth? Since when did beauty have value? God created us all EQUAL.” hehe
hi……salam perkenalan ….i oftenly be your silent reader
but….this time my itchy hand to comment…
working mum or not all of us has 24 hours a day…but i guess working mom are more challanging in handling family and works….its all back to time management beb!
p/s: i am actually staying nearby your area 🙂
nyah,
i nak join sekali dlm topik ni blh?
i selaku perempuan bekerja dan beranak juga mengalami masalah yg sama.
apa korang ingat korang aje yg letih?
i ada menyampah kat satu blog ni. like dia ajela hebat tinggi agama dan pandai mendidik anak. ko aje la pandai buat kraftangan cari duit lebih. ko aja la pandai bg syarahan agama. pastu sukee la sgt kondem org lain.
cho00i!
anyway, last week i kenot tahan already. i dah delete pun dari list feveret. mampus kau situ.
hahah.
aku pun sama D!!!!! aku benci sungguh org complain pasal badan aku ni kecik sgt, sroh aku mkn byk sket!! ape kejadah aku nk berdiet?? dh mmg sejak azali kot aku ni kurus.. penah ke aku debab?!! aku tension sungguh, depa ingat aku lepas bersalin nk diet bagai! eh haloooo, untung lah kan badan aku ni lepas bersalin bole turun balik ke size anak dara dulu.. ko dengki ke apa?!! eeeee mmg tension bile ckp yg aku ni kurus kering, bla bla blaa.. rasa nk sepak, bole?!!
strange…i thought the mysterious disappearance of virgin girl’s panties has got to do with the one particular pervert who was making headlines recently but azman’s spender (pls substitute G-string to your liking *mati la kena petir*) too?
i gather you must have adik2, kakak2 or makcik2 around your neighborhood who just hit puberty and you know right unwashed spender does wonder for acne and maybe breakouts? pls do not attempt this at home dear diyana blog’s reader, not unless it’s your hubby’s spender…
hahaha…aku sokong Badyah mmg cun!..heheh….
whatever it is, gemuk is bad for health!
katakan ‘taknak’ pada rokok dan gula!
let’s makan makanan organics!
Hallo D,izinkan aku memberi sepatah dua opinion di sini tentang hal ini.
Isu pertama-SAHM:
Mungkinkah mereka pernah dikutuk or direndah2 kan sebab mereka SAHM?So,since mereka comfortable ckp dgn hang,dan rasa hang easy to get along with,maka mereka pun express apa terbuku di hati…ye ke?
Isu kedua:Skinny vs chubby:
Aku bebetul tak pernah rasa or tgk hang mcm orang lidi,yea hang slim,but hang tak LIDI ok..hang besar kat tempat2 tertentu yang mmg perfect for perempuan..hang bukan kurus kering tak tentu hala..hang ok,just nice..slim,curvy..hang curvy..dan tak lidi..:)..itu dari mata aku la..
So mungkinkah,org yang bersembang dgn hang itu pun rasa n pandang hang mcm tu jugak,dia tak rasa hang lidi..sebab tu dia ckp..ye ke?Lidi ialah org yang nampak mcm anerox dan tak healthy..hang nampak ok,sihat and best..
Ur size dah elok sgt2 with ur hubby…for me,elok sangat..keep it up..
Ramai org nak badan mcm hang..trust me..hang tak lidi:)
Hellooo there…
I’m a SAHM, not-so-thin-not-fat-either, but I have lots of skinny/voluptious workingmom friends. We have no issues whatsoever, but I do respect them for what they do. They do both actually, working and houseworks. Its much more challenging, tiring and time consuming. Dunno how they juggle everything!
ps. not all SAHM are like that. Complaning and comparing. I am trully blessed with what i am and really respect all working moms out there including you 😉
bab SAHM tu mmg slalu kena dgn a lot of my frens, n mcm u jg, x psl2 diorg announce,’ jgn ingt kami x letih duk umah’, like WTH? did i say anything 2 u about ur chosen career? then berbangga2 dpt ‘menjaga anak dgn 2 tgn sendiri’. yeah, rub in it in, konon anak dia je la dpt didikan sempurna.mostly my frens yg jd SAHM can actually afford to stay at home pon coz suami kaya raya kerja best, so mmg hangen je sbb org tu x phm that me n hubs both HAVE to work in order to get by. like u said la kn, i x kata diorg x sibuk, but they have no idea yg kita pon blk umah buat jg benda2 tu semua, ON TOP OF kerja2 pejabat. i wish they would read this bcoz i terlalu chicken nk tulis sendiri kt my own blog.
memana je topic sama…SAHM vs working mum…aiyakk….
dorg ni ingat kita ni tak buat keje rumah kots…hmmm, oklah…since aku ada maid kan..mmg tak nafikan la yg keje umah aku byk maid yg buat..tapi bilik aku adalah restriction area…and kalau kat umah..aku tetap pastikan yg laki aku makan masakan aku sahaja….
balik keje..tetap masuk dapur…masak..n lepak ngan anak2….maid hanya kerja smpi aku balik dr opis shj…even dinner pun dia makan apa yg aku masak….
weekend..apatah lagi…keje maid hanya basuh baju n mop lantai sahaja…anak2 aku yg setelkan….bagi aku..itu je masa yg aku ada untuk anak2….
pasal gumuk ke kurus ke….aku bangga jadik diri aku….walaupun tak kurus tapi tak de plak aku nak jeles2 ngan org kurus….bagi aku..kalau nak sgt kurus then workout laa…g gym ke apa ke…slimming center melambak apa….as long as sihat…xde apa nak pikir sebenarnye…
kes2 jeles ni..kalau dok ikutkan org…mmg tak abis la….sabar je la D…
hmmm..aku lupa nak snap picture gmbr kita kat umah ko aritu…tapi kan..komen aku ngan kak iena…ko lagi kurus dari masa kat um….hmmmm…n of course prettier than before…ahaks…
bagi pertanyaan ko…camne aku bley putih dr dulu….sbb skg aku jrg jumpa matahari…..hahahaahhaa
jadi uncle pun penat gak oooo…. lalalalalalala
Di..aku suke je tgk body ko, lawa je..adik ko pon lawa ..mak ko pon lawa….ipar2 ko n mak mtua ko awet mude……hahah takde kene ngena ngan entry ni..hahaha..apepun..pdulikan cakap2 org..aku pnah kene yg sama tp reverse la..ko kurus aku gendut..hehehe janji happy..janji umah ko cantik kan???hahaha
hahhahhahaa…you are so funny lah. kenapa you have so many of these annoying lady friends? all i can say is that they are jealous of you 😛
memula aku ingat just nak baca, then suddenly aku teringat komen SAHM yg telah diutarakan melalui mak aku.. MAK AKU HOKKAY!!!…
this A person smash aku kenapa family aku kerap sgt mkn luar time mon-fri.. bila mak aku nak bela aku saying aku x sempat nak masak.. org tu ckp xkan la tak sempat masak.. dia pun ada anak ramai…
boleh tak aku nak nangeh tahan geram bila kene komen mcm tu.. dah la A tu immediate family aku.. uwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa….
nak buat mcm mana kalau anak aku asal smp rumah, time tu la dia nak suruh aku buat susu? time tu la nak berak? time tu la nak nyepahkan brg2? laki aku pulak dah sah2 kene entertain yg sorg lagi tu.. dah la bukan boleh biar dia dok sorg sgt, nak2 dah boleh ala2 merangkak ni…
oh.. mungkin aku x pandai time mgmt kot… tp pikir2 balik.. P MAMPUS LA KO!!! janji laki aku nak gak mengadap kangkang aku…
HAMIK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ok what mothers need to realize is being a mom is tough work. Regardless if you work or don’t. Both have challenges. Everybody needs to just be nice and supportive of each other and stop clomplaining about the other. I have been on both sides and have working moms and stay at home moms as friends and nobody badmouths the other for what they choose to stay home or not.