*menyampah = annoyed
A couple of nights ago we went for Satay Kajang Samuri dinner at Awan Besar R&R. As usual we dined outdoor and once Miki finished his food he walked towards the pond to look at the swimming fishes. I sat facing the pond so I saw the whole thing.
The table nearest to the pond was occupied by four to five women and a little boy that was perhaps younger than Miki looking at his body size. The boy was eating a satay while standing up behind one of the seated women(his mom maybe) and was watching Miki walking by.
With his face ala-ala samseng kampong dusun the boy spread both his arms to block the way so that Miki couldn’t pass. And when Miki ignored him and simply walked at the other side of the way, the boy chased after him and punched him on the back!
I guessed it was a weak punch, Miki turned around and looked at him with many question marks on his face. The boy continued to try to hit Miki but our lil boy is smart enough to move away from him without hitting him back.
I quickly called out to Miki for him to come back to our table. I was rather afraid the samseng boy suddenly use his satay stick to poke Miki on the face or something. Giler ke apa! Tak pasal-pasal buta mata anak aku!! Miki came explaining that the boy didn’t let him go to the pond and was hitting him as though I wasn’t watching the whole thing.
I told Miki to just forget about watching the fishes, he can look at them some other time. Hitting other kids like the little boy did was not very smart and we all should never hit other people at all.
To be honest I was very geram at that kid yang tak pasal-pasal nak pukul budak lain siap blok jalan tak bagi orang lalu macamlah itu rumah dia! Mujur sangat he was too weak for Miki to even feel the lightest hurt but what happened if he really did use the sharp satay stick? Eiii… geramnya!
But you know what, as much as the little boy annoyed me, THOSE FIVE WOMEN SITTING AT THE TABLE ANNOYED ME EVEN MORE! As much as I saw the whole thing, they saw it too, and they didn’t even have to get up from their seat, all they need to do is stretch one arm and pull their attacking kid away from Miki! But they didn’t! They just let the kid menyamseng-dusun without even saying NO! or JANGAN! Or calling his name! Dasyat tak?
Dear fellow parents, when you are out with your little kids, please watch what they are doing, if they are making so much noise next to a sleeping baby in a stroller, tell them to keep it down, if they are hitting other kids, quickly stop them! To me, it doesn’t matter after that if the kids continue to make noise and continue to play aggressively because I myself understand that it is natural for kids to be rowdy and naughty. But you have to parent your role as a responsible parent and discipline them. Even if you don’t do it at home, try not to arouse the anger of other parents in public by being ignorant. Mengerti?
This incident was not the first for us. I remember last year, Miki really wanted to play in a playhouse at Azzahrah Hospital waiting area and inside the house there was another playground bully. He kept pushing Miki out of the playhouse but Miki pun satu nak jugak-jugak main dalam tu.
The kid kept on pushing Miki although as usual my son won’t hit other kids at the playground! His mother saw his son’s behaviour but tegur acuh tak acuh.
Finally Azman (ni pun samseng kampong dusun gak ni don’t play-play) spoke intentionally louder than usual. “SUDAH MIKI, JOM KELUAR, TAKMAU GADUH-GADUH… BERGADUH NI TAK PANDAI, MIKI BUDAK PANDAI, BUDAK PANDAI TAK BUAT ORANG LAIN, ORANG TAK PANDAI JE BUAT ORANG, DAH JOM KITA MAIN TEMPAT LAIN”.
Maka keluarlah Miki dengan penuh kekeliruan dan bangunlah juga ibu itu lalu mengambil anaknya lantaran berlalu pergi dengan penuh kesentapzan. Padan muka ko!
Aku juga tak paham ttg ibubapa yg bolh buat tak kesah anak dia pukul org lain. Mungkin jugak sbb ia pun jenis bantai anak dia kat umah kot tu sebab anak dia rasa hitting other kids is “ok”.
My SIL hits her kids often thus now her 2.5yo boy hits her back when he’s angry. Karma?
Aku pulak jenis kalau budak tu pukul anak aku, mmg aku akan scold that kid depan2 makbapak dia. Tp takdelah style samseng kampung dusun, hehehe. Rather slow voice but definitely with my garang voice. Gasaklah makpak dia nak sentap.
But of coz, kena pastikan anak2 aku pun molek perangainya.
Go abang Man go!
Saya faham ada parents yang anggap “ala.. budak-budak, mmg cenggitu”. Tapi sikap camtu bahaya kalau tak pandai bezakan limitnya, apa yg betul2 boleh dibiarkan sebab ‘dia budak’ dan apa yg tak boleh dilakukan. Harap2 saya tak jadi begitu kalau saya ada anaks nanti. 😀
Yknow babe. I agree with Nannoor.
I’d go straight to the kid and say, “please don’t do that, it hurts him. And I’m sure it hurts you too if someone does it to you.” Then take Miki away from them. Azman was almost there 🙂
Not to “educate” their kid but more towards letting my kid know that hitting is a big NO-NO in her world.
Mia has had once incident. A girl pushed her because she didn’t want to get down the swing. And the exact thing I did to that girl. Mak dia nearby, I’m sure but I tak kisah dah. I could feel my ears getting warm, I’m sure you had felt the same too, D. And I’m glad sebab masa I told that kid off, Mia was looking at me as well so I hope she gets the message that pushing pun is not ok. Neither for her nor strangers.
I am very much against hitting kids. I feel it is sending the message to her (Mia) that it is okay to INFLICT pain on others. Or to inflict pain on others to get your way. Cubit, spankings – the same. It hurts. Naughty, mischief, tak dengar kata – take away TV, tablet, playground time or anything she loves momentarily. And explain to her why I take them away.
Besides, words hurt worse, kids. In future, you plan to get back at someone, using words are the way to go! hehee!! Then that’ll bring us to another episode of parenting dramas, kan! :p
as for me, mentality ibu-ibu yg tak reti tegur anak hit anak orang lain adalah kampung giler. tak cukup educated dan tak nak ada ilmu, that’s it. biarlah org kata aku kejam ke apa or mcm bagus sebab fikir mcm tu. that kind of attitude hanya menyusahkan org lain and end up eventho anak sendiri salah tapi tetap nak menangkan jugak.
my son adre pernah jugak kena mcm ni. siap budak girl tarik rambut dia sebab nak main rides yg adre tgh naik.. and the mother boleh tengok dari jauh je? nak je aku babab budak tu tapi bila fikir balik kesian pulak that girl hanya kerana mak sendiri tak ambil tau pasal dia. what kind of parents pun tak tau lah. pandai buat anak je.. marah ni ok.
sara belum penah kena cubit atau dpukul budak lain sebab bila bermain kat luar mak abahnya masih sentiasa terlalu dekat (i mean ‘sangat’ dekat), budak lain pun tak mau main sgt dgn dia..huhu..tapi kalau terjadi perkara-perkara mcm ni, aku sgt yakin yg abahnya sara akan bertindak mcm azman juga..even worse, haruslah dia akan sound dgn guardian-guardian budak tu skali..isk, sadis..
anak-anak kecik masa ni la nak diajar moral dan tatacara bergaul dlm masyarakat. dah besar karang dah tak lut dah. samseng sampai ke tua.
Kudos, Miki! 🙂 So proud of your ‘lil boy. Hehh not so little after this incident anymore 😉
I’m sorry if I sound stereotypical but I have seen such case happen in front of my very eyes many times before. As you said it’s understandable for kids to be rambunctious and mischievous but when parents knowingly refuse to “educate” their kids in a proper manner, it’s just sad.
It’s all about mindset, I tell you. (eh, sounds like a makcik pulak? hehe)
Though I am not yet a mother, seeing such a scene has really opened my eyes to be more mindful and aware of my responsibilities as a mother in the future, inshALLAH.
Miki’s dad had the best last word!